Dear Dr. Neder,

My girlfriend says she loves me and I know she does, but why does she get so happy when other guys flirt with her?

Another question: Why does she always bring up the past of her ex's all the time because it really makes me mad about the stuff she says like when she went camping all these guys were checking her out. Do you think it is to make me jealous?

Because she has been in a lot of relationships that the guys didn’t care what she said about anything because a lot of them cheated on her, I'm the one trying to make everything for her right now.

How do I do so?

Hello!

Here's why she gets so happy: she's an "Attention Whore" ("AW"). She craves male attention. This is bad, Bad, BAD for you by the way! If she gets enough of it or the right type from some other guy, she's going to fall out of love with you.

She brings up the past because she has no respect for you or your relationship. Personally, I don't care and realize that the girls I date have had a past life, but they rarely talk about it to me. Know why? Because they respect me and don't want to risk causing any harm to our relationship. Does this sound like your girl? Not to me.

This isn't to make you jealous - it's because she's an AW.

Now, here you are, the "nice guy" and you're trying to make everything right for her. What's she doing to earn it? She's seeking all sorts of attention from other guys in hopes of meeting a "real" man one day.

My brother, I strongly urge you to be this man by completely changing your attitude, or you're going to lose this woman to someone like me. Trust me on this one - I see it everyday in the thousands of emails I receive. I also strongly urge you to read "Being a Man in a Woman's World™ I & II" and get this straightened out. Don't say I didn't warn you!

Best regards...